MEMPHIS WEDDING: HAILEY AND DAN

WHEN GLITTER & GRIT WAS OPENING, I MET HAILEY AS SHE WAS MOVING INTO ONE OF THE APARTMENTS UPSTAIRS. WE'D ALWAYS SAY "HI" IN PASSING, AND SHE'D STOP IN ONCE IN A WHILE DURING OUR "DRESS UP" PARTIES TO TRY ON DRESSES FOR FUN. I WAS SO, SO EXCITED WHEN SHE FINALLY GOT ENGAGED AND WAS ABLE TO COME SHOP FOR REAL!  FOR HER MARCH WEDDING IN MEMPHIS, TN, HAILEY WORE A STUNNING DRESS AND LACE TOPPER BY REBECCA SCHONEVELD AND CAMILLA CHRISTINE'S LETITIA VEIL.  SINCE GETTING MARRIED, HAILEY MOVED ELSEWHERE WITH HER NEW HUSBAND, AND I MISS SEEING HER BEAUTIFUL SMILE - AND HER ADORABLE DOG - ALMOST EVERY DAY.

ALL IMAGES COURTESY OF RUSSEL HAYES PHOTOGRAPHY

WHEN YOU TRIED ON YOUR DRESS, HOW DID YOU KNOW IT WAS THE ONE?

I LIVED ABOVE ERIN WHEN SHE OPENED GLITTER N GRIT, SO NEEDLESS TO SAY, IT WASN'T MY FIRST TIME TRYING ON WEDDING DRESSES IN THE STORE. I PROBABLY TRIED ON EVERY DRESS IN THE STORE BEFORE EVER GETTING ENGAGED, POPPING INTO THE STORE ON THURSDAYS TO CHECK OUT WHAT WAS NEW. ERIN WAS ALWAYS SO KIND TO LET ME PLAY DRESS UP, DREAMING OF THE DAY I'D GET TO WEAR ONE [FOR REAL]! THEN, I MET THE MAN OF MY DREAMS AND HE QUICKLY SWEPT ME OFF MY FEET. THERE WAS NO QUESTION THAT ERIN WOULD BE ABLE TO HELP ME FIND MY PERFECT DRESS. I KNEW FROM THE BEGINNING THAT I WANTED A TIMELESS DRESS- A DRESS THAT YOU COULD GENUINELY LOOK AT AND SAY, "OK, THIS DRESS COULD BE FROM 2015...OR 1956...OR 1858". I ALSO ALWAYS KNEW I WANTED LONG SLEEVES, LACE, AND A LONG CATHEDRAL LENGTH VEIL. THINK- GRACE KELLY, KATE MIDDLETON, ETC, BUT I KNEW THAT TYPE OF DRESS COMES WITH A HEFTY PRICE TAG AND AT THE TIME A LONG SLEEVED DRESS WAS SUPER HARD TO FIND. BUT TO NO AVAIL (PUN INTENDED!), I TOLD ERIN EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED AND A FEW WEEKENDS LATER WEEKEND SHE CALLED ME AND SAID, "HAILEY! YOU HAVE TO COME IN THIS WEEKEND. I THINK I HAVE YOUR DRESS". I PUT IT ON, AND I IMMEDIATELY KNEW IT WAS THE ONE. IT HAD EVERY ASPECT I HAD WANTED- IT WAS ELEGANT, CLASSIC, DELICATE AND THE BEST PART WAS THAT IT WAS SUPER COMFORTABLE (DANCE-ABILITY WAS A MUST HAVE!).

WHAT WAS YOUR GROOM'S REACTION TO SEEING YOU IN IT?

AFTER I FOUND MY DRESS, I SO BADLY WANTED TO SHOW DAN. WE KEPT THINGS EXTREMELY TRADITIONAL PRIOR TO THE WEDDING, SO SEEING EACH OTHER (AND THE DRESS) BEFOREHAND WAS COMPLETELY OFF LIMITS. BUT I JUST LOVED IT SO MUCH, I FOUND MYSELF EXPLAINING IN DETAIL ALL THE DRESS CHARACTERISTICS TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY MULTIPLE TIMES WHEN HE WAS IN EAR'S DISTANCE. SO I ASSUMED BY THE WEDDING DAY HE HAD A PRETTY CLEAR PICTURE OF WHAT THE DRESS LOOKED LIKE. ONE OF THE ENGLISH TRADITIONS THAT DAN AND I INCORPORATED INTO WEDDING WAS HAVING THE GROOM FACE THE ALTAR UNTIL THE BRIDE WALKS ALL THE WAY DOWN THE AISLE, THEN HE TURNS AROUND FOR THE BIG REVEAL. SO WHEN HE FINALLY SAW ME ON OUR WEDDING DAY I WAS RIGHT AT THE ALTAR. HE JUST HAD THE BIGGEST SMILE ON HIS FACE AND WHISPERED, "YOU LOOK SO BEAUTIFUL".

PLEASE TELL US YOUR FAVORITE THING ABOUT DAN...

IS EVERYTHING A CORNY ANSWER? WELL FIRST OFF, HE IS THE PERFECT BALANCE FOR ME. I AM LOUD, ENERGETIC, ANXIOUS, COMPLETE TYPE A, EASILY DISTRACTED, IMPATIENT, ETC. HE IS HONESTLY THE OPPOSITE OF EVERYTHING I AM. HE IS CALM, COLLECTED; HE SPEAKS WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY RATHER THAN TO BE HEARD; HE IS PATIENT, EASY GOING, I COULD GO ON. HE IS SO LOVING AND SENSITIVE BUT HE ALSO HAS A SENSE OF HUMOR. HE LETS ME BE MYSELF-- AND LET ME TELL YOU, MYSELF IS WEIRD, CRAZY AND A LOT TO HANDLE! BUT HONESTLY, THE BEST PART ABOUT DAN IS THAT HE IS NON-CONFRONTATIONAL, EMPATHETIC AND UNDERSTANDING. I HONESTLY DON'T THINK WE HAVE EVER FOUGHT, EVER. IF THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG, HE JUST TELLS ME, AND WE WORK IT OUT. WHY WOULD I WANT TO FIGHT WITH SOMEONE I LOVE? THAT'S ALWAYS BEEN OUR MENTALITY, AND IT HONESTLY MAKES OUR RELATIONSHIP SO FULFILLING AND AWESOME TO BE IN. I TELL HIM EVERY DAY THAT HE IS THE PERFECT MAN- AND IT DOESN'T HURT THAT HE'S EUROPEAN AND HAS A SEXY BRITISH ACCENT EITHER ;). 

DID YOU INCORPORATE ANY TRADITIONS INTO YOUR WEDDING?

OUR WEDDING WAS ALL ABOUT TRADITION. NOT THAT THERE IS ANYTHING WRONG WITH NON-TRADITIONAL (I LOVE NON-TRADITIONALITY), IT'S JUST SOMETHING WE BOTH HAVE ALWAYS WANTED! THE ONE THING PEOPLE PROBABLY DIDN'T EXPECT REGARDING OUR WEDDING (BECAUSE WE SURELY DIDN'T AT FIRST) WAS FOR THE BRITISH AND AMERICAN WEDDING TRADITIONS TO BE DIFFERENT. AND, THEY WERE. SO, DAN AND I FOUND WAYS TO INCORPORATE BOTH THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE DAY.

        FIRST OFF, DAN AND I DIDN'T SEE EACH OTHER BEFORE THE CEREMONY. IT WAS TOUGH CONSIDERING THE CEREMONY WAS AT 7PM, BUT IT WAS TOTALLY WORTH IT. AS FAR AS THE BRIDAL PARTY, TRADITIONALLY IN THE SOUTHERN US, THEY ARE HUGE. IN ENGLAND, THEY ARE NOT. SO, I HAD 11 LOVELY LADIES AS BRIDESMAIDS AND DAN HAD 2. YES, WE WERE A LITTLE OFF BALANCE, BUT WHO CARES? ONE BRITISH TRADITION IS THAT BRIDESMAIDS FOLLOW THE BRIDE DOWN THE AISLE RATHER THAN PRECEDING HER. I INCLUDED THIS TRADITION BY HAVING MY SISTER WALK BEHIND MY DAD AND I (WHILE MY OTHER BRIDESMAIDS ENTERED FIRST). IT WAS FUN TO HAVE MY SISTER THERE BEFORE I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE. I ALSO WORE A SIX PENCE IN MY SHOE. YOU KNOW THE SAYING, "SOMETHING BORROWED, SOMETHING BLUE...", WELL THE BRITS COMPLETE IT WITH, "AND A SIX PENCE IN HER SHOE". IT'S A TRADITION FOR GOOD LUCK- SO YOU BETTER BELIEVE I HAD ONE STRAPPED TO THE SOLE OF MY SHOE. WE DID ALL OF THE TRADITIONAL WEDDING THINGS- BOUQUET TOSSES, CUTTING OF THE CAKE, FIRST DANCES, ETC. IT WAS ALL AROUND THE DEFINITION OF TRADITION.

HERE'S THE DOWNSIDE TO A MULTI-CULTURAL WEDDING. EVERYONE IS CONFUSED. ONE SUPER FUNNY THING THAT HAPPENED (WHICH I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE UNTIL SOMEONE TOLD ME THE NEXT DAY), WAS THAT NO ONE STOOD UP WHEN I WALKED DOWN THE AISLE. NOW I GUESS THE PRIEST MAYBE SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING, BUT I ALWAYS THOUGHT YOU JUST KNOW TO STAND?! WELL, THE BRITS THOUGHT MAYBE AMERICANS DIDN'T STAND AND THE AMERICANS THOUGHT THE BRITISH DIDN'T STAND, AND WELL, SO EVERYONE WAS TOO NERVOUS TO BE THE FIRST (EVEN MY OWN MOTHER!) AND STAYED SEATED. CAN'T SAY IT BOTHERED ME AT ALL, IT WAS HONESTLY NICE TO BE ABLE TO SEE EVERYONE IN THE AUDIENCE, BUT IT WAS DEFINITELY FUNNY AFTER THE FACT! I PRETEND THAT EVERYONE WAS SO ENAMORED BY MY AMAZING WEDDING DRESS THAT THEY ALL FORGOT TO STAND UP :). LOL

PLEASE DESCRIBE THE MOST MEMORABLE MOMENT OF THE DAY.

THE WHOLE DAY WAS PERFECT, BUT I WILL NEVER FORGET SURPRISING MY DAD WITH AN IMPROMPTU ELVIS SOLO. MY DAD HAS ALWAYS BEEN A SINGER. HE'S THE FIRST ONE UP ON A NIGHT OF KARAOKE AND HE ACTUALLY HAS AN AMAZING VOICE. WELL, BEING THAT OUR WEDDING WAS IN MEMPHIS, I KNEW I HAD TO JUMP ON THE CHANCE TO HAVE MY DAD SING SOME ROCK N' ROLL. I HAD ORIGINALLY ASKED HIM TO SING, BUT HE BRUSHED OFF THE IDEA SAYING, "NO, IT'S YOUR NIGHT, I'M NOT GOING TO RUIN IT SINGING". SO, I KNEW I HAD TO COME UP WITH A PLAN. I ARRANGED TO HAVE THE DJ PLAY A KARAOKE VERSION OF ELVIS'S FAMOUS, "I CAN'T HELP FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU". HE CALLED MY DAD UP TO SING (I HAD TO HAVE THE LYRICS READY, MIND YOU), BUT EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THE ROOM GOT ON THE DANCE FLOOR AND DANCED TO HIS SINGING. MANY TO THIS DAY STILL THINK IT WAS A RECORDING OF ELVIS (HE'S THAT GOOD). HAVING EVERYONE I LOVED GET UP AND DANCE, AND HAVING MY DAD DOING ONE OF THE THINGS HE LOVES MOST- SINGING, IT WAS PERFECT.

DO YOU HAVE ANY SPECIAL ADVICE FOR FUTURE BRIDES?

-DO WHAT YOU WANT, REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYONE SAYS. EVERYONE GETS SO WORKED UP ON THE CULTURAL NORMS OF WEDDING. THROW IT OUT THE WINDOW. IT'S YOUR DAY, DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT. IF YOU WANT YOUR BRIDESMAIDS TO DRESS UP LIKE DINOSAURS, GIRL, MAKE THEM BE DINOSAURS. I GOT A LOT OF QUESTIONS ABOUT HAVING MY BRIDESMAIDS WEAR WHITE, WHICH REALLY ISN'T THAT WEIRD IN MY OPINION. BUT, ULTIMATELY IT WAS EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED AND I COULDN'T HAVE BEEN MORE PLEASED WITH HOW BEAUTIFUL MY BRIDESMAIDS LOOKED.
-INCLUDE YOUR GROOM. I KNOW IT'S EASY TO GET LOST IN THE DETAILS OF THE WEDDING AND WANT TO MAKE ALL THE DECISIONS ON YOUR OWN. BUT NEVER FORGET THAT IT'S NOT JUST YOUR WEDDING. KEEPING YOUR GUY IN THE LOOP WILL MAKE THE EXPERIENCE THAT MUCH MORE SPECIAL FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.
-DON'T RUSH THE ENGAGEMENT. HECK, THIS (HOPEFULLY) IS A ONE-TIME ONLY PERIOD IN YOUR LIFE. DON'T RUSH IT! ENJOY THE ENGAGEMENT PARTIES, THE REGISTERING FOR GIFTS, THE "OH MY GOSH, YOU GUYS ARE ENGAGED!!" MOMENTS. YOU HAVE FOREVER TO BE MARRIED, ENJOY BEING ENGAGED.
-TRY TO HAVE A WEDDING PLANNER THE DAY OF, IF YOUR BUDGET ALLOWS. IF NOT, TRY TO BUILD IT IN YOUR BUDGET. YOUR WEDDING DAY IS CRAZY-- SUPER HECTIC AND CHAOTIC. YOU SHOULDN'T BE WORRYING ABOUT THE LITTLE DETAILS OF THE DAY. YOU SHOULD JUST BE TAKING IT ALL IN AND ENJOYING IT. HIRE A PROFESSIONAL TO RUN THE SHOW OR RECRUIT A SUPER ORGANIZED BRIDESMAID TO TAKE CHARGE. NO ONE SHOULD COME TO YOU WITH ISSUES ON YOUR WEDDING DAY- IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU! (AND DON'T MAKE YOUR MOM DO IT-- IT'S NOT FAIR FOR HER EITHER!)
- FORCE YOURSELF TO STOP AND TAKE IT ALL IN. THE DAY FLIES BY, HONESTLY FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE. EVERYONE IS THERE FOR YOU- THEY WANT TO TALK TO YOU, HUG YOU, GIVE YOU WELL WISHES, CATCH UP, AND THAT IS WONDERFUL! BUT, YOU'VE SPENT ALL THIS TIME WAITING FOR THIS DAY, TAKE A FEW MINUTES TO LOOK AROUND AND ENJOY IT, TAKE IT ALL IN. DON'T TALK TO ANYONE, DON'T DO ANYTHING- LOOK AT YOUR GUESTS DANCING, LOOK AT YOUR BEAUTIFUL FLOWER ARRANGEMENTS, LOOK AT YOUR CAKE, BECAUSE I PROMISE YOU, WHEN IT'S OVER, IT WILL ALL BE A BLUR.
-REMEMBER WHAT THE DAY IS ABOUT. IF YOU'RE GETTING WORKED UP OVER THE SMALL STUFF, YOU'RE GOING TO RUIN THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. IT'S NOT ABOUT THE PARTY, THE DRESS (IT'S SORT OF ABOUT THE DRESS :)), THE CAKE, THE MUSIC, ETC. IT'S ABOUT THIS HUGE STEP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP; IT'S ABOUT MARRYING YOUR BEST FRIEND. EVEN WITH MASS CHAOS, UTTER DESTRUCTION OR BAD LUCK, ULTIMATELY THE DAY IS ABOUT YOU AND YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER. DON'T FORGET THAT.

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